Sometimes our lives seem to run
parallel with others or with some significant other, but it is important to
note that our spiritual journeys will veer off widely, from time to time, from
those we have fixed within our physical surroundings. Our relationships are always a reflection of our inner life. And the definition of an unhappy marriage in the physical realm is one that has not been allowed to evolve or dissolve when your spiritual paths have forked into widely divergent directions.
With all the puffed-up talk about
“family values” and the sanctity of marriage in our culture, we must give equal
time and honor to the sanctity of separation and divorce. Whatever dissolution God has ordained, let no
man put asunder. We sin against nature
and the Divine whenever we force something to be that was never meant to be or
that has run its course.
Yet, a given relationship may
allow for the individual strivings of its partners. The definition of a happy marriage is one
that allows each one to travel their own precarious path, and then at the end
of the day to find respite and comfort in each others arms. Maybe that is our fondest dream as we carve
out the New Earth.
Still I notice, that the
spiritual travelers in my circle, as they age, gravitate more and more toward
living alone or with ones with whom they are not intimately connected. When we no longer couple out of need, or from
a sense of lack, or from our wounding we find our desire for companionship also
takes different forms.
Time is moving so fast, that when I think about last year’s challenges, they seem very far away. In that spirit, it seems it has been some time since I feared to draw the card named Solitude which corresponds with the Hermit card . . . so of course it came to me repeatedly. I understood the spiritual path was solitary for us all, but I wondered if that path would also mirror my physical journey, my life path.
Today, the Solitude card is
simply a mirror, and when he comes to me I invariably laugh, and I say to him,
“Hello old friend; don’t you think I’ve learned your lesson by now?”
When I am not afraid of being
alone, I notice all the amazing souls I have drawn into my circle of awareness
at this time. I am grateful to NOT be
alone, as I journey on the road to find out.
